Wednesday, April 30, 2014
‘Me’ Time: Yes, you can! By S. E. Smith
‘Me’ Time: Yes, you
can!
By S. E. Smith
Have you ever felt guilty about
taking ‘me’ time? I’m sure the majority of us have at one time or
another. One thing I’ve learned, or should I say I’m still learning, is that it
is important to have balance in your life. I have always been a bit - okay, a
lot - of a workaholic and for most of my life I have felt guilty when taking
the time to do something just for me. There never seems to be enough time in
the day to get everything done so I tend to push ‘me’ onto the back burner –
well, no more.
Life is a combination
of balances and it is easy to forget that balance when family, work and life
get in the way. For years my husband has pushed me to find this ‘equilibrium’
where I have time for myself. He has told me for years that it is just as
important to take the time to play. Life is, after all, about the journey you
take and the relationships you develop along the way. It was his concern, and a
period of feeling very rebellious, that changed my attitude. 
Lily’s Cowboys:
Heaven Sent Book 1 was the first book I wrote and published.
She received a
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So, I continued to read every day, all day to
escape from the world around me. The problem was I soon found it more and more
difficult to find the kind of books with the type of heroes and heroines that I
wanted to read about. So the reading changed to writing, which soon changed to
sharing. You would think ‘Great, she now has a hobby’ but I know my
personality. If I am not careful, I will lose the balance I am so desperately
trying to achieve.
My Personality…. I took this after writing the above. Boy, did I hit
the nail on the head! What about you?
The INFJ type is believed to be very rare (less than 1 percent of the
population) and has an unusual set of traits. Even though their presence can be
described as very quiet, INFJ personalities usually have many strong opinions,
especially when it comes to issues they consider really important in life. If
an INFJ is fighting for something, this is because they believe in the idea
itself, not because of some selfish reasons.
INFJ personalities are drawn toward helping those in need: they may rush to
the place of a major disaster, participate in rescue efforts, do charity work,
etc. INFJs see this as their duty and their purpose in life. People with this
personality type firmly believe that nothing else would help the world as much
as getting rid of all the tyrants (though preferably in a non-violent way).
Karma and similar concepts are very attractive to INFJs.
These tendencies are also strengthened by the fact that INFJ personalities
have a unique combination of idealism and decisiveness. This means that their
creativity and imagination can be directed toward a specific goal. Few other
personality types have this trait, and this is one of the most important
reasons why many INFJs are able to eventually realize their dreams and make a
lasting positive impact.
INFJs are masters of written communication, with a distinctively smooth and
warm language. In addition, the sensitivity of INFJs allows them to connect to
others quite easily. Their easy and pleasant communication can often mislead
bystanders, who might think that the INFJ is actually a very sociable person.
Every man must decide whether he will
walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive
selfishness. - Martin Luther King
INFJs should be careful to avoid “overheating” as their zeal and
determination can sometimes get out of hand. As Introverts (I), INFJs need to
have some “alone time” every once in a while; otherwise their internal energy
reserves will get depleted really quickly. If this happens, the INFJ may
surprise everybody around them by withdrawing from all their activities for a
while, and since other people usually see INFJs as always friendly and
sociable, this can leave them both surprised and concerned.
INFJs take great care of other people’s feelings and expect others to
return the favor. Unsurprisingly, people with this personality type are very
sensitive and vulnerable to conflicts. Even the most rational INFJs may find it
quite difficult to not take criticism personally—this is the INFJ’s Achilles’
heel. If someone with an INFJ personality cannot escape the conflict, they will
do their best to deal with it head on, but this will result in a lot of stress
and may also potentially lead to health problems or highly irrational behavior.
So what does all this mean for me as writer? Remember above when it said “very
sensitive and vulnerable to conflicts” and “Even the most rational INFJs may
find it quite difficult to not take criticism personally”. This is me whenever
I release a new book. I am always excited and scared and fears and doubts
arise. What is important to me is to acknowledge that not everyone will like my
books and that is OK. I need to continue to take time out for me, especially
after the release of a new book as this helps me recharge and keep my perspective.
I’ve learned a little perspective never hurt anyone! LOL.
So what am I
currently working on? Check out my web site, FB, Twitter and more tomorrow as I
make a BIG announcement as to what is coming up next. I don’t think you’ll be
disappointed.
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1 comments:
i got INFJ type too lol
It can be very hard to balance everything and some days, weeks or months the baalance can get tipped before it is balanced out again, everyone is different, even if some people have things in common there are still other things that make them unqiue.
To relax and de-stress i do alot of different things depending on my mood and how run down i am
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